You don't have to do this alone
Your parish will walk with you through every step. The priest, deacon, and parish staff have helped many families through this process. Call the parish office first -- they will guide everything else.
Typical Timeline
Notify the Parish
Call the parish office as soon as possible after the death. The priest or parish staff will begin coordinating the funeral arrangements with you.
Contact a Funeral Home
The funeral home handles the body, coordinates with the parish on scheduling, and helps with legal paperwork (death certificate, permits).
Plan the Liturgy
Meet with the priest to choose readings, music, and discuss the homily. The family selects scripture readings and may choose someone to give a eulogy (before or after Mass, depending on parish custom).
The Vigil (Wake)
Usually held the evening before the funeral at the funeral home or church. A prayer service with scripture readings, psalms, and time for family and friends to pay their respects.
The Funeral Mass
The central liturgy. Includes the Liturgy of the Word (your chosen readings), the Liturgy of the Eucharist, and the Final Commendation. Typically 45-60 minutes.
The Committal
Final prayers at the cemetery or place of interment. A brief, solemn rite commending the deceased to God. Usually immediately follows the funeral.
What to Bring / Prepare
- Baptismal certificate of the deceased (the parish may have this)
- Death certificate (funeral home provides)
- Photo for the funeral program or display
- List of pallbearers (usually six)
- Scripture readings chosen by the family
- Names of anyone doing readings or presenting gifts
Typical Costs
These are typical ranges in the United States. No one is ever turned away from a Catholic funeral for inability to pay.
A suggested donation to the parish (not a fee). Typically $200-500. No one is turned away for inability to pay.
If the parish provides musicians, a separate stipend is customary. Typically $100-300.
The largest expense. Varies widely by region and services. Average $7,000-12,000 for full service.