Getting Started
What is the first thing to do when someone dies?
Call the parish office as soon as possible. If the death occurs at a hospital or care facility, they will guide you on next steps for the body. The parish will coordinate with you on scheduling the funeral.
How quickly does a Catholic funeral need to happen?
Most funerals take place within two to seven days of death. There is no strict Church requirement on timing, but the parish and funeral home will help you find a suitable date.
Does the deceased need to have been a practicing Catholic?
A Catholic funeral is for baptized Catholics. However, the Church may allow funeral rites for catechumens, unbaptized children of Catholic families, and in some cases non-Catholic spouses. Speak with your priest about your specific situation.
The Liturgy
Can we choose our own readings?
Yes. The Order of Christian Funerals provides approved scripture passages and the family selects from them. The priest will guide you and help you choose readings that are meaningful for your family.
Can we have a eulogy during the funeral Mass?
The Church prefers that eulogies be given at the vigil (wake) rather than during Mass. However, many parishes allow brief "words of remembrance" at the beginning or end of the funeral liturgy. Ask your priest about the parish practice.
What music is appropriate for a Catholic funeral?
Music should be sacred and liturgically appropriate. Hymns, psalms, and sacred music are used. Secular songs (even meaningful ones) are typically reserved for the vigil or reception. The parish music director will help you choose.
Practical Questions
Is cremation allowed in the Catholic Church?
Yes, since 1963. The Church permits cremation provided that the ashes are kept reverently in a sacred place (such as a cemetery columbarium) and are not scattered, divided, or kept at home. The Church recommends that the funeral Mass take place with the body present, with cremation afterward.
How much does a Catholic funeral cost?
The church portion is a suggested donation ($200-500), never a fee. The main expense is the funeral home ($7,000-12,000+ for full service). No one is turned away for inability to pay the church stipend.
Can non-Catholics attend and receive Communion?
Everyone is welcome to attend a Catholic funeral. However, Holy Communion is reserved for Catholics in a state of grace. Non-Catholics are welcome to come forward with arms crossed for a blessing, or to remain seated.
What should I wear to a Catholic funeral?
Dark, modest clothing is traditional. Black is most common but dark navy, charcoal, or other muted colors are appropriate. Avoid casual clothing, bright colors, or anything too revealing.